The divorce process can be long and arduous, and it’s important to go into it with eyes wide open. Take advantage of the experience and legal knowledge of a divorce lawyer, who will help you make the right decisions in your case, as well as protect your rights and interests throughout the proceedings and finalization of your divorce.
Here are some important questions to ask when meeting with or hiring a divorce lawyer, in order to get on the same page early on and prevent any unpleasant surprises later on in the process.
Step 1: Find an attorney
You should meet with an attorney to discuss your case before filing for a divorce. Though many people are scared of their first meeting with a lawyer, rest assured that your attorney is there to help you.
You should find an attorney who has experience in family law and/or has worked with clients in similar situations as yours. This will help ensure that you get all of your questions answered quickly and clearly.
Step 2: Meet with them
Although not always possible, it is best if you can meet with an attorney before hiring them. You are taking time out of your busy schedule for them so treat it as an important part of choosing one to represent you. An attorney that does not have time for you during such an important decision may not be someone you want to have to represent you.
Take time to get comfortable with each other and see if they are able to explain what will happen in language that is easily understood by someone who has never had experience with legal proceedings.
Step 3: Choose the right method
There are several methods for ending a marriage. No one way is right for every couple. What works for one couple may not work for another. Often, it’s wise to use more than one method in order to reach an agreement with your spouse and have peace of mind that all bases are covered should problems arise down the road. Here are some of the most common methods
Step 4: Agree on temporary arrangements
You’ll agree on where you’ll live and how much time you’ll spend with your kids until you can resolve any outstanding issues or decide if a settlement is worth fighting for. Once everyone is clear on what they want out of a separation, agreeing on how it will work should be easier.
The arrangement isn’t written in stone though and neither party is entitled to keep what they have if someone would like things different in the future.
Step 5: Get as much information from the other party as possible
To get anything done in family court, you need to be armed with as much information as possible. Thorough knowledge of your case is critical and that includes knowing what you will face from your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
The more prepared you are when it comes time for negotiations, the better able you will be able to negotiate a favorable settlement.
Step 6: Build yourself up and gather courage
Believe in yourself! You can do it! But don’t just believe in yourself and keep it for yourself. Spread some kindness and love around by sharing your work with others. There are tons of websites where you can share your work, including